Holiday dating ideas
When I first mentioned that I was going to be talking about tips to help daters survive the holidays, a bunch of readers said, "Avoid dating till January!
" The holidays stress us out — there's so much to do, shopping sucks, it's cold, and any existing family tensions are exacerbated — so trying to get a new relationship started is the last thing you want to add to your to-do list, especially because there are so many holiday minefields that could blow the fragile little romance to smithereens. Don't feel compelled to bring some new guy to your office party.
He'll probably be relieved if you let him off the hook, explaining it'll be easier on both of you that way. Similarly: Don't be offended if he doesn't bring you to his. Don't tell yourself, "Oh, what the hell — why not kill two birds with one stone?
" Introducing a new guy to anyone in your family automatically ups the ante, especially during the holiday season.
Think about it: all of those twinkling lights, the magical snow you’ll (hopefully) get and the infectious music that fills the air can add up to a cute scene straight out of a movie.
Take advantage of the short holiday time to do something special with your boo.
If logistics are tricky, and neither of you wants to disappoint your family (or yourself!Office parties can be stressful and awkward for even the most graceful employees — and adding a new beau to the mix will just increase the pressure on you.Plus, a bunch of people standing around talking shop while getting drunk and doing karaoke is no outsider's idea of fun. Think twice about casually inviting him to any family holiday party.But the fact is I've already got the cold-weather festivities on the brain.And not just because the pumpkin butter I've been having on my morning toast is arousing Thanksgiving reveries, a la Proust's madeleine. Cup-of-Tea and I have already started discussing the holidays.